Helpful links
If you need help escaping from an abusive relationship, or know someone who does, please click on the links or contact the appropriate numbers below. There’s always someone out there who can help.
Hull and East Riding Safeguarding
For East Riding please contact the East Riding Safeguarding Adults Team – (01482) 396940 www.ersab.org.uk
For Hull, please contact the Multi Agency Safeguarding Hub – 01482 616092
East Riding
Prevention of Domestic Abuse Service (PODAS) can be contacted via telephone on 01482 396708 or 396706.
Domestic Violence and Abuse Partnership (DVAP): Helpline: 01482 396368
Website: www.eastriding.gov.uk/living/crime-and-community-safety/domestic-violence/
Email: DVAP@eastriding.gov.uk
Hull
Strength To Change -They can be contacted via telephone on 01482 613403.
Preston Road Women’s centre can be contact on 01482 790310
Hull DAP Male Victim Support: Helpline: 01482 613978 Website: www.hulldap.com/support/male-victims/
North Lincolnshire
North Lincolnshire’s Community Safely Partnership works together to protect you, aide in your safety and help to prevent any further incidents.
They offer support to anyone who is aged over 16 living with domestic abuse or those who wish to flee domestic abuse.
Domestic abuse team on telephone number 01724 240314.
Amber Project Domestic Abuse Support Service on telephone number 01724 289299 (office hours)
Blue Door helpline on telephone number 0800 197 4787
North East Lincolnshire
To speak to someone about help, advice and support, please contact:
The Domestic Violence Liaison Worker on 01472 721225 or 07837269439 (office hours only)
Women’s Aid (24 hours) on telephone number 01472 575757
Domestic Abuse Helpline for male victims on telephone number 01472 588888.
Domestic Abuse Help
LEPH – Protecting Public Health
Community Vision – Keeping People Safe
National DA Helpline
Women’s Aid
Scottish Women’s Aid
Live Fear Free Helpline
Hollie Guard
Hestia
If you need emergency help now
If you, or someone you know, is in immediate danger, call 999 and ask for the police.
Silent calls will work if it isn’t safe to speak – use the Silent Solution system by calling 999 and press 55 when prompted.
You can also ‘Ask for ANI’ (pronounced ‘Annie’) in pharmacies and jobcentres displaying the logo. They will offer you a safe space, provide a phone and ask if you need support from the police or other domestic abuse services.
If you’re not in immediate danger
Remember, you know your own situation best so only take on advice that feels safe and relevant to you. It’s important to think about things that may change or make you more unsafe. And to think about how you might get help if you need it in an emergency situation.
You may have a professional such as an Idva, Idaa or social worker that can help or another person you trust. You can also access help and support from the helplines below.
Safety planning
Do you have a personalised safety plan – and if so, is it up to date?
If you need to make updates to your safety plan, could an Idva/Idaa or specialist domestic abuse worker help you do this? Or are there other professionals you trust and can talk to?
Remember, it is ok to tell your specialist worker that the person harming you is living in the property, they won’t judge you and can better help you to think about your safety.
Speak to your employer
Do you have a supportive employer? Can you talk to them about what is happening?
Other steps you can take
Think about places of safety
Have you talked to your Idva/Idaa through the layout of your house so you can think about any places of safety?
If you had to leave in an emergency do you know where you would go?
Have a bag packed and ready
If you can, leave this at a trusted friend/family/neighbour’s home. This should contain medical essentials, important documents including passports/driving license. Maybe the service you are in touch with could keep copies of these documents.
Have a little bit of money hidden away in case you need this to leave.
Agree a codeword/sign to signal you’re in danger.
Set this up for family and friends to let them know by text/voice note/video call. The code will need to alert them to contact the police if you are in danger. Teach the code to children who are old enough to understand what you are asking of them and why.
Use a separate mobile
Do you need a separate mobile which you can use just to call for help? The service you are in touch with may be able to supply this.
Find the best times for contact
If there are times you know you can talk, share this with your specialist worker and agree how you will reach each other.